As a parent or caregiver, one of the most heart-wrenching moments can be when your child or teenager asks, or even begs, for help with their mental health. In our busy lives, it's easy to downplay or brush off these moments as "normal teenage behavior." But the truth is, when a child reaches out for help, it’s crucial to take their concerns seriously and respond with urgency. Their mental well-being is just as important as their physical health, and ignoring cries for help can have dire consequences.
One tragic example comes from Georgia, where a 14-year-old boy begged for help from every adult in his life, expressing his deep emotional pain. Yet, somehow, his cries went unanswered or unaddressed with the seriousness they deserved. Unfortunately, his untreated mental health issues spiraled out of control, culminating in a heartbreaking act of violence that could have been prevented.
This story is a sobering reminder of the importance of listening to our children. When a young person expresses feelings of depression, anxiety, or hopelessness, it is not "just a phase." These are warning signs that should prompt immediate action. When a child asks “what’s wrong with me” or what’s wrong with my brain”, they need to work out those questions with a mental health professional. They need to know they’re not alone and someone can help answer these questions.
The Role of Schools in Mental Health Support
Schools are often a child’s first line of defense when it comes to mental health. Teachers and counselors see them daily, witness changes in behavior, and can spot the early signs of trouble. If your child tells you they're struggling, don't hesitate to reach out to their school counselor. These professionals are trained to provide resources and guidance to both the child and the family. They can offer referrals to therapists, connect you with support groups, and work with teachers to ensure your child receives the understanding and accommodations they need in the classroom.
Even if you're unsure about the severity of your child's struggles, it’s better to act early. Many mental health issues, such as anxiety, depression, and ADHD, are easier to treat when they are caught early. A school counselor can serve as a valuable ally, guiding you and your child through available resources both inside and outside the school system.
What Can We Learn from Tragedy?
The story of the Georgia teen is an extreme example, but it holds a lesson for all of us. When we dismiss or minimize our children’s emotional pain, we miss an opportunity to intervene before it’s too late. The adults in this boy’s life may not have understood the seriousness of his cries for help, but in retrospect, we can see the catastrophic consequences of that oversight.
Our children need to feel safe enough to share their struggles without fear of being judged, dismissed, or punished. As parents and caregivers, we must create an environment where it’s okay to talk about feelings—where mental health is discussed openly and help is readily available.
Steps You Can Take Today
If your child has expressed concern about their mental health, here are some steps you can take:
1. Listen without judgment. When your child speaks up, put aside distractions and truly hear them. Let them know that their feelings are valid and that they are not alone.
2. Consult with a school counselor. Schools are equipped to provide mental health resources or refer you to someone who can. Don’t hesitate to ask for their help in creating a support system for your child.
3. Seek professional help. Sometimes, your child may need more than just school-based resources. Reach out to a therapist or psychiatrist who specializes in adolescent mental health.
4. Create an open dialogue. Keep the lines of communication open with your child, and check in regularly about their emotional well-being. Normalize discussions about mental health in your household.
5. Advocate for mental health awareness in schools. If you notice that your child’s school lacks resources, get involved. Advocate for mental health days, training for staff, or more accessible counseling services.
No parent wants to imagine their child suffering in silence. The key is to recognize the signs early, take their requests for help seriously, and act with compassion. Let’s ensure that the tragedies like the one in Georgia never happen again. When a child or teenager reaches out for help, let’s be the adults who listen, care, and respond.
If you or someone you know is struggling, don't hesitate to contact a mental health professional or reach out to school resources for help. Please see a program below called Teen Line. This is a resource your teen can utilize via phone, text, email or chat.
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